From Fag to Femme
via the Poofter
The evolution phases of submissive men who become submissive females
or fake women who become real females
The fags, queers, crossdressers, transvestites, sissies, pussies or fairies – hereinafter referred to as sissies – whom I have encountered, hung out with, contextualized, fucked, subjugated, or dealt with did not become so by mere decree. Whether they call themselves sissies, fags, queers, peds, pussies, females, sissies, sluts, or submissives, none of them discovered their true selves overnight.
This stems from a growing awareness of a condition, a state, and eventually a status that they gradually develop over the course of their lives, through chance encounters and personal explorations – initially sensory and sensual – that progressively lead them to more fulfilling and sexual adventures, ultimately culminating in an experience that is distinctly feminine and sexual.
5 distinct characteristics can be observed to identify the degree of feminization and femalization of submissives throughout their journey or development :
First characteristic :
They aren’t necessarily very comfortable around a natural woman, especially when it comes to their own masculinity or virility. The woman appeals to him, even excites him, but these wimps don’t feel up to the task or worthy of expressing whatever alpha qualities they might have toward that woman. The feminine attraction overwhelms her and exacerbates a kind of “I love you, but I don’t” feeling that mixes attraction – even love – with hints of jealousy at not being able to project the same kind of attraction toward these same women or toward men once the self-awareness of their condition emerges.
This gives rise to an irresistible desire or need to steal this seductive power from women by adopting their style of dress and making it their own, thereby reinforcing the feeling and illusion of belonging to a gender that is so perfect in their eyes.
They may appear youthful at first glance, but their voices alone almost always give them away. Their double punishment is facing the spurning, or even ostracism, that is often directed at them if they happen to be caught masturbating by a woman (more often their own) or a man (more often a friend) while wearing pink or black fishnet stockings…
Second characteristic :
As a result of what I just said, potential future sissies develop and refine their imagination at this stage, moving from the stage of a contextualized Barbie doll to that of a sexualized female. Their imagination drives them to take the place of a woman in a man’s bed, deriving pleasure from experiencing powerful erections while fantasizing about giving him a blowjob, or even being sodomized by him.
Pretty soon, they are no longer satisfied with just their imagination and go on to experience what it’s like to suck a cock, to fully satisfy it, and then to be sodomized. They experience this first at home or at the stud’s place, satisfying a first man, then a second, then a third. The next step is to explore the realm of homosexuality…
Even as their sexual identity becomes clearer, they don’t yet see themselves as women or females; they’re passive or versatile queers, just a bunch of fags. They frequently experience a sense of love-shame regarding this condition : the pleasure of enjoying what they are experiencing in the present moment, and the shame that follows each time they realize it has materialized in such a way.
It is also at this stage of their development that they begin to invest time and money to progress and assert themselves in their feminization. This marks the emergence of makeup skills and practices, as they notice their wardrobe expanding with diverse and varied outfits adaptable to future new contexts… They begin to compare their image to others’ views on dedicated websites and social media, thereby satisfying a latent narcissism and giving it an opportunity to be expressed.
Third characteristic :
On observe ensuite une phase où les tapettes, à force de se concrétiser, intègre leur identité au point d’en oublier leur excitation physique; elle se dédie à ce point au fait de faire don de leur intimité au profit du plaisir de l’autre, que leur satisfaction devient de plus en plus mentale et son expression ne se traduit même plus par une érection, allant jusqu’à la non nécessité de jouir physiquement ou alors sur demande ou sous la contrainte.
We then observe a phase in which, as sissies become more and more real, they internalize their identity to the point of forgetting their physical arousal; they devote themselves so completely to giving up their intimacy for the pleasure of the other that their satisfaction becomes increasingly mental, and its expression no longer even manifests as an erection, to the point where physical orgasm is no longer necessary—or occurs only on demand or under duress.
In my role as a dominant, I enjoy assessing this state in my submissives-in-training by having them milk themselves at the start of a session, so that I can then gauge their willingness and ability to submit and please without relying on their own arousal. A true sissy knows how to savor his own semen on his master’s cock with delight, even – or especially – in the absence of physical arousal. A submissive must never be driven by arousal; if so, he or she is merely a manipulator.
They become increasingly aware of their condition; they feel the need to merge the “Barbie” and the “female” into a single person, and begin to embody their feminization in real-life situations. It is also during this phase that they transition from being a “faggot” to a “cross-dresser,” and then to a true ‘sissy’ and “transvestite” (with complete and total hair removal, makeup, and painted nails). It is observed that they find it increasingly difficult to be naked in private without being adorned with feminine clothing or accessories that express their femininity.
It is also there that, having abandoned every trace of their own masculinity, they realize that the gay community isn’t fond of men who aren’t fully gay, and that, as they navigate the complexities of the LGBTQIA++ world, these groups have only their labels to unite them… They are, in fact, quite exclusive toward one another… The effeminate man no longer appeals to gay men; the straight man who has embraced his bisexuality holds very little interest for women, who far prefer a man. The few women who might occasionally indulge in feminizing “their” man at home – going so far as to use a dildo on him – adopt, where applicable, a status as Mistress or pseudo-Mistress to allow them to compensate for centuries of male and macho supremacy, giving free rein, for better or worse, to their own “machismo,” making their partner pay the price for the historical burden endured by their biological counterparts.
Fourth characteristic :
Next comes the need to assert themselves and embrace their identity even more fully. Having become full-fledged females and pseudo-women, they feel the desire to go out in public as such. This is the time for their first club outings, for seeking out couples or men to take them out. For the boldest among them, this means visiting stores and boutiques, as well as hair removal and makeup salons. Their public lives take shape, their status is confirmed; they become and live out their nature as women and females in a very concrete way.
This is the moment when they find themselves enjoying kissing men, taking on the status or role of “the wife of” with the men to whom they now offer themselves and give themselves unreservedly.
With this need now deeply ingrained in them, some turn to prostitution to live life on their own terms and become independent, having distanced themselves from their societal, social, and even professional and/or family ties.
For those without such concerns, they consume and revel in everything this new life has to offer, accumulating and collecting situations and partners likely to satisfy their appetite for themselves – though with all the superficiality that comes with this type of exchange.
Fifth characteristic :
The final stage leads them to no longer want or be able to return to the life of a “normal” man. Body hair, relationships, behaviors, and “all-out masculine” outings no longer suit them. It’s time for radical choices: what kind of relationship ? With whom ? Coming out ? Living as a woman 24/7 ?
Beyond the desire to reach such milestones lies the opportunity to actually do so. This involves choosing the right partner, as well as making personal and professional decisions that can be difficult yet rewarding – but sometimes destructive.
They engage in a variety of sexual experiences and role-playing scenarios, but they sense that this path does not lead to true fulfillment.
They gradually come to feel the need to “belong.” To embrace their femininity and its manifestations under the firm yet benevolent and caring authority of a Master or Mistress. Either as an existential goal that allows them to pursue their personal, private, and professional lives in parallel, while living as a woman 24/7 on demand, devoting themselves body and soul to someone in charge of their growth without assuming full and complete responsibility for it; or as a transitional phase before their coming out and then undergoing a formal transition.
It’s time to search for the right person. They scour dating sites and post ads until they eventually find the right person, accumulating frustrating or bad experiences as they grapple with the mediocrity of humanity and its members, who are always ready to exploit each other’s desires in unhealthy ways…
Conclusion :
This process can take anywhere from a few months to a few years, depending on the individual; but it seems inevitable once they are driven by their innate qualities and the need to express their true nature. We are not necessarily talking about coming out in this entire process; it happens for some, but it is by no means the rule. What characterizes them in any case is the prominence that takes in their daily lives, to get fully feminized, to demonstrate it, and to accept the consequences with those who appreciate them for it and who wish to take advantage of them.
It is at this stage of their development that these creatures contact me in the best-case scenario; the other cases involve those who are not ready or sufficiently attuned to their status; they contact me and then virtually vanish or disappear after the first role-playing exercise (see those I refer to as “the fakes” in my dedicated article).
For a Master or Mistress, finding the right fruit – ripe, perfectly ripe, and ready to be savored to satisfy our neural, sensory, nervous, and physical taste buds – is no easy task… nor is it for submissives ! But this falls under the freely chosen expression of their nature…
Master VertigedSens